One thing that I’ve learned about life is that it is not stagnant, it is ever changing and change is constant. I’ve found that that only thing that I can count on is that change happens whether I like it or not. I come across people on a daily basis who are being asked to change something about themselves. Often the basic values of their very existence is being challenged and the demand for change is imminent. Sometimes these folks really have a desire for change, to be better and to do better, however, most are at a loss as to what change might look look like.
Change happens in a number of ways and for a number of reasons, here are a few…
1) we decide to make changes for personal growth.
2) we are forced to change due to external forces, i.e., potential loss of job, relationship, etc.
3) fear triggers changes such as warnings from doctors;
4)our changes in the environment demand change to sustain life such as effects of global warming.
What I’ve discovered is that many of us hate to change in particular when we feel we don’t have a say. We hate change because we are such creatures of habit that we assume that although change might be good, that we are so entrenched in our habits that change is all but impossible. We often fail to find a good enough reason to make needed changes in our personal and professional lives, thereby eliminating the possibility of potential failure. The first step and probably the most difficult is to admit that something in your life or about yourself needs to change.
Things to know about change….
1) If the long term outcome is good for you, then it is worth it…. You are worth it.
2) It often feels uncomfortable and even anxiety provoking. This is normal.
3) You may risk losing friends, acquaintances and even experience conflict with family members.
4) You will be forced to explore aspects of your personality that you may rather not.
5) Know that it does not happen over night, it is a process of intention.
6) It gets easier…. some say it takes at least 21 days to break a habit.
7) Stay focused.
Peace & Blessings,