How many times have you said… Thought… Or heard this said? I tried it but it didn’t work for me. I hear a lot of reasons therapy for some people did not work, “Me and that therapist just didn’t connect”, “They don’t understand me” and many other reasons. To be fair, therapy certainly may not be a fit for some people. I’m told that antisocials, narcissistic, schizoid and other personality disorders definitely don’t respond well. However, in general most people can benefit. To ensure a good experience here are some things to keep in mind:

1- Why now?  What is bringing you in?

2-What discipline do you prefer, i.e., Marriage & Family Therapist vs. Licensed Clinical Social Worker vs. Ph.D or Psy. D
3-What gender works best for you? Do you have a preference?

3-Understand their style and their approach,  works best for you? for example Cognitive Behavioral vs. Psychodynamic? Solution Focused vs. Transactional Analysis?

4-Shop around before you commit.. most insurance will allow you to try before you buy. Know that the first person you meet may not be a good fit (my personal experience… Thank God I kept looking.)

5-Ask around for referrals from friends, family, coworkers, check Therapist Finder and other resources.

6-Check cost…. Some take insurance and some don’t, if you find one you like who does not accept insurance be prepared to pay out of pocket. You may be able to get some cost reimbursed if you choose out of network therapist.

7-Details….? Race, sexual orientation, wheel chair accessibility, location, spiritual background, evening appts., specialities, etc

8-Keep an open mind. Know that this process can be a little scary but it is a worthwhile and courageous endeavor.

Peace & Blessings.